You Deserve a Loaf, Not Just the Crumbs

Dear Crumbheads,

If someone only shows up when it’s easy or convenient,
they’re not offering love—they’re offering leftovers.

And you?
You are not a side dish.

When You’ve Been Living on Crumbs

This one’s for the over-givers. The emotional chefs. The people who pour in, check in, show up, and keep the connection alive while the other person’s “just busy.”

Maybe you’ve told yourself,
“They’re just going through something.”
“They care—they just don’t know how to show it.”

Or maybe you’ve convinced yourself:
“A little attention is better than nothing at all.”

Let me be loud and clear:
That is not love. That is starvation.

Real Love Rises—It Doesn’t Just Linger

You deserve a connection that’s fed regularly.
Not one you keep on life support with hope and over-functioning.

Like sourdough, a good relationship takes consistent feeding, warmth, and rest.
It doesn’t just rise on “potential.” It rises because both people feed it—even when life gets messy.

If you’re the only one rising,
it’s time to step back from the crumbs and make room for the loaf.

If You’ve Accepted Crumbs Before—You’re Not Weak

Let’s get one thing straight.

If you’ve stayed in something one-sided, it doesn’t make you pathetic.
It doesn’t mean you’re clueless.

It means you believed in the possibility of love.
That belief is not your shame—it’s your strength.

Now we just shift that hope into a relationship that feeds you back.

Today’s Heart Check: Are You Doing All the Feeding?

• Look at the Balance:
  Is the connection built on mutual effort—or your over-functioning?
• Say the Thing:
  “I want this to last—but I can’t be the only one showing up to bake.”
• Mr. Crusty’s Advice:
  “Check the temp before you toss it. Some dough just needs a better environment. But if it ain’t rising, stop preheating your heart for it.”

You Can Still Invite Them to Rise With You

Here’s the beautiful part:
This isn’t about punishing someone or walking away in silence.

It’s about inviting people to meet you in the middle.
To feed what’s real.
To stop playing pretend with crumbs.

And if they can’t?
You still rise. Because you’re the loaf.

Quick Moment of Mutuality

Who in your life is already feeding the connection?

• The friend who checks in when they’re tired.
• The partner who listens before reacting.
• The sibling who shows up without needing a reason.

Thank them.
They are proof that you’re not too much—you’ve just been surrounded by too little.

Talk Crumbs With Us

Comment below or join the Sourdough Soul Care Facebook group:
Have you moved on from crumbs and found real connection?
Or are you still navigating your hunger for something more?

Let’s rise together.

You’re doing better than you think, crumbfriend.
You deserve a love that feeds you back.

Mr. Crusty,

"Some people are just under-proofed. Doesn’t mean they’re trash—just not your recipe. Crust be praised."